The other day, someone I hadn’t seen in a while asked me the simplest, most ordinary question on the planet. “How are you?” my long lost acquaintance said. “I’m doing great,” I replied. And just like that – it dawned on me. I am doing great. Like – really, exceptionally great. Flashback to just a few months ago and those three little words of “I’m doing great” seemed like a complete and total impossibility. I guess I could say it seems like yesterday I was staying in bed until 5 pm, not eating, not showering and crying for hours on end. But it doesn’t. In fact, it seems like quite a long time ago.... Read more

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The universe works in very mysterious ways. I have learned that it giveth and it taketh away. The highs and lows I have experienced in the last few weeks have truly tested my capacity to stand on my own two feet. And guess what I have discovered? My two feet work just fine.... Read more

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So I’ve tried the girl’s nights. I’ve done a lot of yoga. I have read some seriously insightful books. I’ve drank a lot of really good wine. And some bad wine too. I’ve gone on some really long runs. I’ve pampered myself with mani-pedis and new make-up and cute shoes. Yes, these are all wonderful anecdotal remedies, but there is no escaping one blatant fact: this still immensely hurts.... Read more

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So here I am, freshly single and ready to mingle. Actually – no, I’m not. I wish I could say every day gets a little better, but really, every day is just a little different. It’s not an upward climb, it’s a roller coaster and I am hanging on for dear life. I will admit that I cry a little less, go out a little more, eat a lot less chocolate and have been hittin’ the treadmill more often. But apart from good girlfriends and aggressive sweat sessions at the gym, I have also discovered a few fabulous, momentary remedies to make myself feel a whole heck of a lot better. If you’ve had your heart recently crushed, or perhaps February is just plain and simply kicking your ass, I have discovered some Cheeky pick-me-ups throughout town that have certainly helped me. I hope they help you too.... Read more

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Heartbreak. How many songs, movies, poems and plays have been written about it? It’s the ancient thesis: What is love and why, if we don’t know exactly how to define it, can it change us forever? I just got out of a four year relationship. I don’t know how many of you out there have had long, long, long term relationships but there really is no clear way to define how it transforms your life. It’s beautiful, actually. You meet someone new, someone electric, who is unlike anyone you have ever met before. You get to know each other slowly, you fall in love and, over time, a partnership is formed. Each high, each low, the triumphs and failures, the unraveling of each other’s fears and dreams, every moment is shared. You collect the memories. Pictures in frames. Holidays spent. Trips taken. Tokens of love are given and received. The entire city is littered with places where you built your life together. All of it reminds you of how, when and where exactly your whole life changed. But then, you blink your eyes and you are four years older. Baggage gets collected, mistakes have been made, grudges are held and new questions are asked. But the fact remains: you do not recognize yourself without him. You are defined by both of your names, not simply your own. ... Read more

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